Is food the problem? How Chanty turned her experience with binge eating disorder into a book to help others
Knowing how to support someone with Binge Eating Disorder (BED) when you have no experience can be challenging. Chanty Weedon says this was the first hurdle that her family faced even before her diagnosis with this serious illness. They did not know what to do or say to help. Chanty was very private about her BED and, even though she was getting support from an eating disorder team, she was not open to discussing this with anyone. She could see how heartbreaking it was, particularly for her mother, to witness a binge. Her mother would feel helpless as Chanty proceeded to literally self-destruct in front of her.
After being diagnosed with BED, Chanty says the secretive part of her bingeing disappeared. Out of nowhere, she began bingeing in front of immediate family members. She could justify this behavior now with the thought that: “It is okay, I have an eating disorder.” The diagnosis almost contributed to it. Chanty says:
Late one evening I was sitting in the lounge with Mum. Everyone else had gone to bed. I was on the sofa and she was in an armchair. We were talking, just generally, but I was eating non-stop in front of her. I could see this was distressing for her to witness. I had been piling on the pounds and she knew I would hate myself for this. Each mouthful I took she was desperate to say something. Mum started asking me if I felt I had had enough. Of course! I knew that I had, but I felt unable to stop eating. Eventually, Mum approached me and took the food, saying: “You’ve had enough now.” The feeling that came over me was something I had never felt before. It was like someone else had taken over my body as I chased her to the kitchen. I stopped her in her tracks and held her shoulders tightly, almost shaking her, and shouted: “Give me that food or I will do something dreadful to you.” These words are far from what healthy me would say! I don’t even know where they came from. Mum handed the food back to me calmly and said that I would be seeing the doctor tomorrow because this was not normal behavior. As I sat back on the sofa to re-commence the binge I realized that this eating disorder was more than about food; it was a mental health issue. I started to wonder if the food was really the problem or was there more to it? I wanted to know more. It wasn’t enough now to have this label of BED and not understand it. I didn’t want others to experience what my family had. They felt like they were walking on eggshells at times, hoping and praying that they didn’t say anything that would trigger a binge or an argument. I could see the pain I was causing everyone but couldn’t explain how they could support me. I decided to write about it, in the book “Is Food The Problem? How to support someone with Binge Eating Disorder.”
Chanty’s aim in writing her book was to help other families witnessing their loved one going through BED. She wanted to provide an insight into the work that takes place with the eating disorder team to help families understand and be the support system their loved one desperately needs.
Beat, the eating disorder charity in the UK, defines BED as: “A serious mental illness where people experience a loss of control and eat large quantities of food on a regular basis.”
BED, Chanty says, is not as well-known and is often underplayed when compared with anorexia or bulimia, but it is more common than you may realize. BED is not about choosing to eat large portions of food or to overindulge. Binge eating is not normally a form of pleasure or enjoyment, but in fact can be very distressing as you feel out of control and unable to stop despite often feeling sick due to the large amount of food consumed.
Symptoms of BED may include:
* Feeling out of control while eating
* Eating food faster than normal
* Eating until you feel overly bloated and sick
* Eating even when you are full and not hungry
* Experiencing feelings of guilt and shame due to bingeing
* Grazing all day
* Storing up food ready for a binge
* Eating on the sly or alone
If you recognize your loved one is exhibiting some of these descriptions, Chanty says it is time to reach out for help. Her book helps to explain what BED is, the tell-tale signs, how it feels and considers if it’s not food, what is the problem? There is a discussion on whether there is a right or wrong way to support someone. Distraction techniques and ways to problem solve to reduce the risk of a binge are also discussed.
Chanty developed issues with food as a child, about nine years old. However, she wasn’t diagnosed formally with BED until she was 31. Chanty says:
Having a “label” almost created a monster in me. BED affected the way I lived my everyday life as I literally planned my life around food and binges and hid away from friends and family as the weight inevitably pilled on. I became almost totally isolated and was unable to describe what was happening in my mind. BED has shaped my life in a way I would never have expected. I’m a plus size fitness coach and teach classes once a week. I’ve met amazing women and have gone to places that I could never have imagined to talk about BED and help others. This has helped my recovery process, through being open and honest about struggles and achievements with others. Alongside the book, I run a six-week course every two months and provide 1-1 online coaching. I also offer free digital downloads that include printable adult coloring pages (as a distraction technique), and printable food diary to monitor eating behavior and patterns. For details, email: email@example.com.
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